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Body/Weight Shaming.

Monday, 7 September 2015
skinny shaming | Tumblr - a comment at work today to/about someone else really got me steamed about this.  I hear it all of the time also and it's not any better than fat-shaming.  You don't know a person's circumstances.

weight/ size has nothing to do with being a "real" woman or not. sick of the fat and skinny shaming.

If I had a £ for every person that's said me 'why are you at Slimming World?' 'Why do you go to Slimming World', 'If I was your size i'd be ecstatic, not weighing myself every week.' i'd be bloody rich. 
I think they think it's a compliment, but it isn't. I can't help the way I feel about myself and my body. I don't like my body and I don't feel good about myself. Whether i'm 2st or 20st, if you aren't happy in yourself, no matter what other people say, that isn't going to change. I'm sick to death of feeling scrutinized every time I go to group. My group leader overheard a group of women commenting on my weight, and he said 'how do you know she didn't start out being heavier? How do you know she hasn't lost 20st and stuck to it and got down to where she is now?. Don't judge someone for something you have no idea about. 
I know i'm not the heaviest there, but that doesn't give them a right to judge my decision to join a weight loss group. They have no idea the feelings and thoughts I have about myself. 

Recently, Cheryl Cole was horribly abused online for pictures that were put up during the X Factor auditions. 'Omg, eat something, she's disgusting, how horrible, calls herself a role model'. I couldn't believe the vile things that people were writing. If that was an ordinary person's pictures put up there, would they write such nasty things? No, probably not! But because it's someone famous, it's allowed? Words hurt, no matter how famous, successful or rich you are.

'Real Women Have Curves' 'Strong Is The New Sexy' is a bunch of bullshit. You're sexy, however you damn well feel sexy. I'm no less of a woman because I don't have a Beyonce ass! Quotes like these are what make girls and women feel like they do. You can't win no matter what size you are. I don't have curves in 'all the right places' so i'm not real?...no way in hell am I strong, so I can't be sexy? 
I don't know what gives people a right to say such negative things. Who are they to define what shape or size is sexy? 

Research has found more 11-13 year old British girls than ever have emotional issues linked to body confidence. How bad is that? And it's body shamers, weight shamers and quotes like the ones above that are encouraging this. 

Since when did everyone become so judgemental? To quote one of the greatest movies EVER. 'I just want to make a cake out of rainbows and smiles and everyone would eat and be happy.'